We all know the power of words, and some fighters often try to use that power to their advantage. Words can hurt and imbalance us. Often a whispered word is enough to cause a fist fight.

Sportspeople use any means necessary to get a better chance at winning, psychology included. These are the times when a match ends, even before it began. Provocation often leads to breaking rules, and disqualification. But is that what sports rivalry is all about?

So, a mean word is a great way to upset our opponent’s balance?

That is a personal matter, depending on the opponent. It also depends on the rules.

Why do we fall for being provoked, when we know that it’s just provocation?

Because we react automatically, as with any insult. What’s important is to keep your distance to what people say. Remember, it’s just another dirty trick – you don’t have to believe those words, don’t take revenge. You win when you keep control. This should be your only goal.

How to avoid being hurt by words? People often say, ignore the guy, he’s an idiot, don’t get provoked. But that’s not that easy…

It’s important to know your weak spots, to know yourself, your thoughts about yourself, and know what hurts you the most. Words are just keys to our own negative thoughts, those which we allow ourselves to believe. Even when someone gets to you, it’s important not to lose control – just bite the bullet, but don’t get disqualified. Focus on facts, not opinions, remember the goal.

Our interviewee is Piotr Bogacz – psychologist, psychotherapist, certified addiction therapy specialist, cognitive-behavioral therapist. He works with persons with addictions, suffering from depression and anxiety. He works mainly by methods of modification of negative thought patterns.

e-mail: piotrabogacz@gmail.com

Iza Małkowska